Reject the binary and embracing the different shades

Sexuality

Probably the most well known, the sexuality spectrum, sees one’s sexuality as a spectrum with many shades. Since the dawning of the age, gone are the days when you are confined to a single corner with no ways to fully express yourself. Even in my opinion people’s sexualities are too complex to be confined into hetro, homo or even bisexual. Viewing sexuality as a spectrum allows greater fluidity of sexual identity. You might change from one position to another or move about the spectrum as you change as a person and your preferences changes. *Because at the end of the day,

Be who you want to be, love who you want to love.  

Forget the titles and be with the person underneath.

Love

Love is so complicated to define. Some say it’s just dopamine in our brain, and others say it’s something we can’t ever put to words. Whatever it might be, we definitely know it’s not the same for everyone. Every relationship, let it be with a friend, spouse or a co-worker, every relationship is different with a different meaning of love. I don’t get why some people are afraid to say this word to someone they care for, It doesn’t always have to mean something serious or even sexually. You’re just conveying, that you care. A theory that best describes this is,

Triangular theory of love

Developed by Robert Sternberg, baffled the minds and wrenched the heats of many, plotted love as a triangle with intimacy, passion and commitment on its three corners. It’s a fascinating concept, really. I’m not going to explain the full theory, but I would recommend watching “this video” to better understand the concept.

Introversion – Extroversion 

I used to think I changed from bring an extrovert to an introvert, but that never sit well with me, because I consider myself somewhere in between the different shades. And it was the book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Author Susan Cain, that gave me a lot of great insights on the whole culture behind introversion and extroversion.

According to the Author, people’s nature depend on a lot of factors, including where they were born, how they were raised and much more. And yes, some are born less sensitive to external stimuli than others (Chapter 4: Is Temperament Destiny?), i.e. some people constantly need something to do and be with other people, while some prefer silence and personal time. But still, no one is born confined to one corner, it’s the situations we are in, people we are around and our mindset that places us on the spectrum.

Morality

Although contentious, the moral spectrum is one that has always fascinated me. Moral refers to what societies sanction as right and acceptable. What defines right from wrong, why are some things wrong and some right, these are some questions that has always made me think. Not all acts are morally rights or morally wrong, I believe everything we do falls between the spectrum, because morality in my opinion is subjective.

But before I go on getting myself into more trouble, while researching for this post I came across the field of study called Axiology. “Axiology is the philosophical study of value. It includes questions about the nature and classification of values and about what kinds of things have value”. This is fascinating to me and since my thoughts and opinions on the topic are still in the infant stage, I don’t want to talk out of my ass. So I’ll research more about the topic and continue this discussion another day. So stay tuned 😉